guest appearance

035: Falling From High to Rise Up Above with Jon DeWaal

By on December 27, 2018


Download this episode

Jon serves as the Executive Director, transition guide and workshop facilitator at Liminal Space.  Throughout his personal life and professional career, Jon has discovered that handling transition well will allow for a deeper and more fulfilling life.

A native of Michigan, Jon began his career after graduating from Hope College like any other – landing a job that was ‘fine.’ It paid well, offered a comfortable lifestyle, and promised many great career opportunities. But a few years in, waves of discontent just wouldn’t go away. He started asking questions, having conversations, reading and began meeting with a mentor. Over the course of about 18 months, he explored the questions: Now what? and Where do I go from here? It was within this discontent that he started to intentionally explore what the next chapter of his life could be.

Jon came to Seattle in 2003 to attend The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology (formerly known as Mars Hill Graduate School); ultimately receiving his Masters of Divinity in 2007. Through his education, mentoring and the struggles and discoveries of his transitions, Jon found a more natural fit for his career – creating a practice called Liminal Space that combines the often segregated disciplines of spiritual direction, life coaching and counseling. Through this work, he’s come to know and believe in the power of transformation while a person is located in a moment of transition – a liminal space. Though often very challenging and many liminal spaces conjure up many unwanted things, it’s where the most true things in life are found.  It’s where God joins us and anticipates seeing some of the best of who we are, and how we fit into the story.

Outside of Liminal Space, Jon enjoys living life with his wife and three young sons.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

034: How to Rise Up When You Feel Stuck in the Middle with Ariana Robinson Danquah

By on December 18, 2018


Download this episode

Ariana Robinson Danquah is a mother of two boys under 2, a wife, a full-time working professional and the President of a non-profit.

She is the President and Founder of Workplace Lab, a Houston based 501c3 non-profit focused on building employee empowerment and engagement. As an HR professional and business owner, Ariana specializes in empowering people with practical advice on living fulfilling work lives. She has several years of experience in Human Resource management in industry, and business, diversity/inclusion, and psychology research experience that has equipped her to be a credible ally to many.

Despite having an overflowing plate already, she felt so strongly that a population of employees were being underserved as they strive to develop, grow and move ahead in their careers that she decided she had to do something. Workplace Lab was born from that desire and determination, which she shares with us in this episode of the show.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

033: What it Takes to a Superboss Leader with Syd Finkelstein

By on December 11, 2018


Download this episode

Sydney Finkelstein is the Steven Roth Professor of Management and Director of the Center for Leadership at the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth College, where he teaches courses on Leadership and Strategy. He is also the Faculty Director of the flagship Tuck Executive Program, and has experience working with executives at a number of other prestigious universities around the world. He holds degrees from Concordia University and the London School of Economics, as well as a Ph.D. from Columbia University in strategic management.

Sydney has published 20 books and 80 articles, with several bestsellers, including the #1 bestseller in the U.S. and Japan, Why Smart Executives Fail. Based on a six-year study of 51 companies and 200 interviews of business leaders, the book identifies the fundamental reasons why major mistakes happen, points out the early warning signals that are critical for investors and managers alike, and offers ideas on how organizations can develop a capability of learning from corporate mistakes. On Fortune Magazine’s list of Best Business Books, the Wall Street Journal called it “a marvel – a jargon-free business book based on serious research that offers genuine insights with clarity and sometimes even wit … It should be required reading not just for executives but for investors as well.” It has also been featured in media around the world and has been translated into 12 languages.

Professor Finkelstein’s latest book is SUPERBOSSES: How Exceptional Leaders Master the Flow of Talent. Once again he has undertaken extensive research over a ten year period of some of the most intriguing business leaders in the world who all have one thing in common – they helped develop the best talent in their industry sectors, who in turn helped them become the legendary successes they are today. What they did, and how they did it, is shared via fascinating profiles and seven management practices that separate the best bosses from the merely good ones. LinkedIn Chairman Reid Hoffman calls it “a leadership guide for the Networked Age,” while Jeff Immelt, Chairman and CEO of GE, says “Superbosses gives leaders a playbook to bring out the best in their people.”

Sydney is a Fellow of the Academy of Management, and has had three books nominated for the Academy of Management’s Terry Book Award, the most prestigious such honor in the field. He is a recognized thought leader on leadership, strategy, and corporate governance, and is listed on the “Thinkers 50,” the most prominent ranking of management thinkers in the world. He is well known for his keynote speeches and television appearances, and is a regular columnist for the BBC. He has worked as a consultant and speaker for major companies around the world.

To stay up-to-date on Professor Finkelstein’s latest insights on leadership and decision-making, follow him on Twitter @sydfinkelstein.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

032: How to Live Free with Sara Quiriconi

By on December 4, 2018


Download this episode

My guest for this episode is the amazing, inspiring Sara Quiriconi. Founder and creator of the Live Free Manifesto, Unfck Your Body Series, and author of the just-released Living {Cancer} Free, Sara is a 15-year cancer survivor who is living proof that you can move through anything. A warrior, healer, creator, and determined soul, she travels the world filming, interviewing, experiencing, sharing, and creating online content and in-person conferences to inspire others to live a life of choice, freedom and intention.

Graduating with honors and a BFA in Boston, Sara became immersed in the corporate world and succeeded in Art Direction and Graphic Design for the first eight years of her adult life. However, her immense passion to heal your self through fitness, healthy eating, and exploring the world led her to leave the corporate world in 2013 to commit to educating others on the benefits of well-being and traveling. She fell in love with yoga for its self-healing properties and has been practicing since 2008.

After years of struggling with Eating Disorders and alcohol addiction, Sara’s determined to share the message of Living Free. Through empowered choices and actions, to LIVE FREE is to never settle, and to embody a determined mindset, warrior spirit, and passionate heart raising you to become the highest level and most evolved (and ever-evolving) version of you.

Formerly known as one of Miami’s top fitness professionals and sought after private instructor for celebrities, Sara’s shifted her focus from teaching and coaching these days to producing, hosting and art directing high-quality content in the wellness, fitness and travel market.

Sara is now is a co-producer for creative video content specializing in the wellness and travel sector. She is a Certified Yoga Instructor, Health Coach from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and shares her knowledge as a regular contributor to MindBodyGreen, Manduka, and theYogaOutlet. Further, Sara is a proud ambassador for Manduka Yoga, PUMA, GoMacro, YogaOutlet, and LVE! Swimwear, and affiliations with The North Face and Zico Coconut Water, and is represented by the Vegan-based modeling agency, JSW Model Management.

Key Points from the Interview with Sara Quiriconi, The Live Free Warrior

  • Sara, who just released her first book, Living {Cancer} Free, shared her journey to get to the knowledge in the book, including battles with Cancer literally and cancers figuratively. She aims to help people live free from both.
  • Sara’s story started with the kind of identity crisis many suffer from during their teenage years. She had a sense of who she was inside, who she was turning into, and the person she needed to pretend to be to be liked. That battle and disconnect had a toll on her, and lead to the start of her eating disorder issues, including Anorexia and Bulimia. This was one way she was able to exert control over at least one area of her life.
  • As Sara got older, those battles expanded into problems with alcohol, which is almost the opposite issue from the eating disorders because this was about losing control and being reckless whereas the eating issues were about controlling her life.
  • Sara enrolled in college in Boston, and struggled there, deciding to leave the school and return home after a year. This ended up being a potentially-life-saving decision as it was at home that her mother pushed her to get a strange lump on her neck looked at. It was found to be a cancerous tumor, and Sara was quickly diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma. She began a 10-month program or radiation and chemotherapy.
  • While her drinking during treatment stopped for the most part, she still battled with her eating disorders, including going to the gym as much as she could to purge through excessive exercise.
  • Interestingly, during her battle with Cancer and despite her continuing to make destructive decisions around food, Sara enrolled in a local community college to keep learning and growing, which I found to be such a beautiful break from the turmoil in the rest of her life. Knowledge has always been an important part of her life, and she decided it was important to keep that going.
  • Sara pointed out a really interesting fact about Cancer. Only 5-10% is genetically-driven. That means 90-95% of Cancer could potentially be avoided. While this simplifies things a bit (you could still avoid a genetically-driven Cancer if you find a way to keep a gene from expressing itself, for example), it’s a really powerful statistic to keep in mind and to think about what you are doing in your life that may be bringing cancers into your situation. This is about being 100% responsible for our lives, being the CEO of our lives, which is what Living Free is really all about.
  • After beating Cancer, Sara returned to school full-time, pursuing a degree in design, and went into the advertising world doing design. She also returned to drinking and kept making dealing with her eating disorders. She described it as a calm after the storm where she was left suddenly having to face all the emotions she had to push past during treatment. It was sort of a trade off between the control of the eating disorder and the loss of control of drinking, alternating one one day and the other the next.
  • When it all hit her during the pause after treatment in this limbo of “what do you do now,” she realized she needed to do something different with her life. This was another point of the conflict between who she is, and she was meant to be.
  • Sara shared a quote she’s been using in her email signature about being the CEO of your life, which we mentioned before. She stresses the importance of how this puts responsibility for your actions squarely on your shoulders. And how you should not feel guilty about that or scared of it. If you fall down, it’s up to you to get back up and learn from it so you can keep getting up in the future. Those choices are yours to make. Having that freedom to choose is empowering if you own it.
  • Sara lost her job in the Great Recession, which forced her to seek a less expensive workout option to purge with, which is how she was introduced to Yoga, which she initially did not like but noticed was the first time she allowed herself to feel. Part of that was not having the metrics to show her how much she had burned off like she would on a piece of cardio equipment at the gym, and partially because she didn’t take the first instructor she had. This was a good chance to learn that you should follow your sense of fit with anyone you turn to as an expert, and so she tried other instructors until she found someone who really clicked for her. After that, she discovered a real love for Yoga, the control it brings and the way breathing and opening the body worked her in a way she had never been challenged before.
  • After several years as a student, she began teaching Yoga, and eventually left her day job to do it full-time.
  • As Yoga played a bigger role in her life, she started to get a clearer sense of what Living Free was really about, culminating in her 14-point Live Free Manifesto. A few of them are: Never Settle, Quality of Quantity, You Have the Power to Choose Any Life That You Desire.
  • We got into the strong influence the fear of the past and future have over our present moment. The only thing we ever have is right here and right now (obviously this is something that’s right up my alley with Do a Day)
  • The way Sara finally cut out drinking was to discover the Why behind her drinking, face that, and then she was able to just stop drinking in an instant.
  • We talked about the importance of Play – having a space where we allow our light to shine through, especially as adults. We should let the child in us come out occasionally and just play. It can make space for creativity, rejuvenation and levity – all things we need in life.
  • Sara shared a really important initiative she’s doing to provide healthy care baskets for people battling Cancer called the Cancer Care Package. We talked about how people get gifts, which is great, but they’re unhealthy things that would actually feed a tumor’s growth (like candy). You can get the small and large versions of the baskets from Sara’s site.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

029: How Letting Go Opens You to Meaning & Purpose with Robb Holman

By on November 13, 2018


Download this episode

Robb Holman is an internationally recognized leadership expert, executive coach, keynote speaker, and bestselling author who has a heart for authentic relationships and a true talent for equipping people with the skills and the knowledge necessary for their success. His work has been featured in top publications like Inc., Forbes, and Fast Company and endorsed by many of the world’s top leadership thinkers.

With passion and exuberance, Robb’s dynamic teaching style has successfully led thousands of business owners, executives, and leaders through his exclusive and proprietary method of Inside Out Leadership™ Coaching. In helping his clients learn how to connect with their unique life’s purpose, they are finding success in a way they never expected – from the inside out!

As a lifelong serial entrepreneur, Robb has founded numerous, highly influential organizations, both for-profit, as well as non-profit. His current endeavor is as author of bestselling book, Lead the Way, and CEO of Holman International, a global leadership consultancy revolutionizing the way business leaders operate.

Fun fact: Robb used to be a professional basketball player!

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

028: Falling Down Can Be Necessary to Reach New Heights with Steve Gordon

By on November 6, 2018


Download this episode

Steve Gordon is the founder of The Unstoppable CEO®, the bestselling author of Unstoppable Referrals: 10x Referrals, Half the Effort and has recently released his latest book, The Exponential Network Strategy. He is the editor of three business newsletters and has published hundreds of articles on marketing and selling high-ticket products and services in high-trust transactions.

At age 28, Steve Gordon became the CEO of an engineering/consulting firm. Twelve years later, after growing that firm’s revenue by 10-times he started his second business, consulting 1-on-1 with businesses across 30 industries—including manufacturing, professional services, construction, and consulting—to design sales, marketing and referral systems for high-ticket/high-trust products and services.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

025: Finding Your Hidden Why with Leigh Martinuzzi

By on October 2, 2018


Download this episode

Leigh Martinuzzi is The Hidden Why Guy. He is an expert in lifestyle design although he would say that he’s just another guy trying to figure out life.

He is passionate about creating and living a meaningful life – a life that dissolves suffering and regret. As a compassionate guy Leigh wishes to inspire, educate and help others do the same.

He assists people via speaking, mentoring, writing, and podcasting.

Having a corporate background in senior executive positions for various multi-national companies, Leigh made the realisation that his life didn’t make a great deal of sense and decided to redesign his life to give him more freedom, fulfilment, and happiness.

He has successfully transitioned from a dissatisfying existence to living with higher purpose. Now he pays forward what he has learned to help other people do the same.

Leigh is an author of two books Four Pillars of Success, Delegate to Freedom and soon to be published – The Ultimate Life Map. He has a top rated podcast – The Hidden Why that is listened to by thousands of people around the world each week.

Leigh creates tools, resources and inspirational material including The Life Compass, The Ultimate Life Map and Fast Track to Effectiveness to assist others in creating a lifestyle they love.

People describe Leigh as sincere, spiritual, compassionate, driven, curious and highly motivated. He is integral to his values and the autonomous leader of his life. He’s a family man with two beautiful young girls and a supportive and loving wife.

Leigh believes perfection isn’t the goal nor does such a state exist – progress is key. It requires the ability to tap into our inner motivation, follow our passions, and to proceed with integral and undeniable purpose.

Evolution is progress, natural selection ensures survival, a life with meaning results in happiness.

Leigh believes that to break free from conformity and the stagnation of life we first make wake up. In doing so we will genuinely unleash our best potential and realise the absolute beauty that life offers.

Key Points from the Episode with Leigh Martinuzzi

  • Freedom has always been a very powerful draw in his life. That feeling always spoke to him, and he found himself drawn to things that gave him more freedom throughout his life.
  • The flipside of freedom is uncertainty, which he started to realize as he had more freedom as an adult, only coupled with responsibilities that also come with adulthood.
  • The search for what you love and who you are is actually incredibly fun, and is something Leigh has always resonated with.
  • Leigh always sought financial freedom, but more the freedom to do what he wanted to do when he wanted to do it. He always seemed able to make a dollar, so he was less money-focused than purpose-focused with the idea that the money would follow.
  • He spent much of his 20s and 30s searching for what he could do that would give him freedom of time while still supporting him.
  • He landed on a successful career in real estate, but he realized there was a lack of purpose in it. So he stopped. He didn’t just stop doing it, but he and his wife picked everything up, including their two young kids, and set out to explore the world, ending up in Japan for two years.
  • He was after a level of joy – happiness and fulfillment at a deeper level.
  • While in Japan, he worked very heavily and deeply on The Hidden Why and his books.
  • Being in touch with a life that connects with his joy means Leigh wakes up early every morning and goes after his day with energy and focus in a way he wouldn’t do if he wasn’t living in such connection with what matters to him.
  • Leigh is a great example of the ability to wake up to a better life without having to have a single, stark moment or tragedy. What he gives credit for having the wake up and making the shift is a life-long interest in why, what matters, and take in the thoughts of others without judgment and only reflection.
  • As he looked at every source of unease or dissatisfaction in his life, he has found that they are usually the result of self-incurred immaturity. We haven’t yet become our greatest leader or guide in our life and we rely on our external reality more than what’s within, and we suffer for that. This is based on the ideas of Immanuel Kant, the 18th century German philosopher.
  • He likes to think about things in terms of Be, Do and Have. Most of us go with Do, Have and Be. As in, work, get stuff, and then you can be who you are. Actually, we should focus on who we want to be, which then dictates what we do, and what we have is an outcome of that. It’s about values first.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

023: The Path of Prosperity Has Nothing to Do with Money with Emmitt Muckles

By on September 18, 2018


Download this episode

Emmitt Muckles is an Author, Podcaster and speaker/ corporate trainer. Emmitt’s mission is to share the knowledge of conscious unlimited living. His current project is the Billionaire Lifestyle Podcast interviewing conscious creators helping audiences self mind coach and feel connected.

Even though Emmitt was successful vocationally, with the creation of The Billionaire Lifestyle LLC, and The Billionaire Lifestyle Podcast/blog Emmitt was seeking what he calls an intended purposeful life, as part of the pact derived from his departed mother Juanita Terry-Muckles teachings and guidance. It was this driving endeavor that fueled the creative process that led to  “The Journey of One”.” To Emmitt it is all about servitude, giving what I was given.”

Emmitt has been writing privately for the last 20 years and has decided to begin sharing his talents with the world through speaking, podcasting and writing to inspire and motivate the potential in every living person.

Key Points from the Interview with Emmitt Muckles

  • We are all literally connected, not only through DNA, but trough air – we are all on the same planet, doing similar things and all that we do impacts everyone else. We have more in common than we think, even if we have different lives.
  • It’s up to me to do something. I can’t wait for someone else to do what I want done.
  • The Billionaire Lifestyle, Emmitt’s show and company, has nothing to do with money. Rather than being a financial billionaire, it’s about having that level of life wealth, if you will. It’s about richness in terms of experiences, values and a sense of yourself. He shared how, between your elbow and the tip of your finger, there are over a billion cells, so you are made up of billions – billions of lives (since each cell is alive).
  • Emmitt’s goal is to free 100 million people from this path of pursuing what they don’t really care about in a mindless way.
  • When you have an epiphany in your life and you’re in a relationship with someone who hasn’t had a similar shift, that can create a rift as it can lead two people who were on a similar path to be on divergent paths.
  • When you focus on what you really want in your life, it may not as you imagine it or how you want it, but it comes, and you need to be ready for and open to it.
  • Are you living a life on purpose or on accident. Are you living a life around accomplishing what you care about? Are you accumulating experiences in your life.
  • When Emmitt removed the things he didn’t care about in his life, he realized he was still paying for them (literally), which was even more of a sign that having them in his life was holding him back.
  • Every night before he falls asleep, Emmitt gives thanks for what he has in life. He pauses to appreciate what he has instead of focusing on what he doesn’t have. It’s about giving gratitude.
  • We talked about whether you need to go through the tough stuff to be able to learn how to avoid them and values what you should have, or can you just appreciate the good stuff without experiencing the bad stuff. Emmitt pointed out how many of us are already living with the things we don’t want or need, so the question may be irrelevant.
  • Are you carrying bonus baggage unnecessarily? Are you carrying things that aren’t yours? Do you have things weighing you down that are keeping you from living a free, abundant life?
  • Emmitt talked about a friend who came from a very strong community of family – something we have gotten away from. It’s about giving up self in support of the community, which many of us don’t naturally do.
  • Our spiritual and emotional progress does not equal or has not advanced as fast as our technological progress.
  • We cut ourselves off from all that the human dynamic has when we separate ourselves from each other.
  • The mind, the body and the spirit are all needed to achieve the billionaire lifestyle Emmitt talks about.
  • Emmitt reminds us not to worry about the path because it will be revealed to you as long as you continue in the direction of what you want.
  • When you plant a seed for something, don’t expect to get the fruit where you plant the seed. When you plant an apple seed in the ground, don’t look at the ground for the fruit because it will come from above you. So when you put work into something, the payback for that effort may come from a totally unexpected place.
  • There’s nothing new under the sun. Whatever you are looking for, someone has found it before, so look around, read, and you can find the path.
  • When we pray, that’s us talking our god. When we meditate, that’s our god’s chance to talk to us.
  • Have things that have value that you have given it rather than value that the world gives it. So many times, we are told to value things, but that doesn’t mean they have real value to us. We should question what value this inanimate thing gives to us.
  • Everything has its art. When you see someone who does something really well, they’re in their flow because they’re in the art of it. Other people see it as an action, and think they can do that thing, but they don’t necessarily come to understand the art.
  • Everything has a moment of action and a moment of rest. You’re never in one state perpetually.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

022: Why Having a Fit Mind Matters for Your Wellbeing with Lee Havern

By on September 10, 2018


Download this episode

The Do a Day Podcast

Lee HavernLee Havern had many years of mentoring clients successfully in the Health and Fitness Industry. Then the sudden loss of his father sparked a downward spiral into a depression that lasted over four years. One night, a scare behind the wheel when his car lost control snapped him out of the spiral just as he had hit rock bottom. That was the push he needed to see a better way to live.

He Co-Founded Platinum Training Institute, A Health and Fitness Education Provider in Queen’s University Belfast focused on helping those with real health battles like Cancer, cardiac problems and mental illness, find empowerment and support through their own fitness. He then decided to follow his passion helping others to discover Happiness through Mental Health and Well Being. This is where Fit Mind Matters was born.

Lee Havern shares his journey and his message, along with how he personally lives his life with balance and presence to stay out of the spiral and live the fullest, most satisfying life possible.

Key Points from the Episode with Lee Havern

  • Lee Havern is focused on helping people with health issues that are often overlooked by the fitness community with their physical conditioning as part of their journeys
  • This comes from Lee’s first hand experience struggling with depression and thoughts of ending it all in the wake of losing his father to Cancer
  • Decluttering and removing distractions from our lives is one of the main things Lee has personally focused on for himself to help free him to work on what actually matters to him
  • Through the process after his losing his father, Lee grew in many ways, some some specific changes
  • While he used to be a pleaser and a yes man, he learned that saying yes to everybody is actually saying yes to nobody
  • He became a father and got divorced.
  • He learned a lot about taking responsibility and apologizing to piece his life, his family and his friendships back together
  • Loss can force the forgiveness and healing we need.
  • Sometimes, it takes hitting rock bottom to realize you can’t go any lower. We may need to see the bad to appreciate the good.
  • Having a group that supports you while you go through that rebuilding journey can be crucial.
  • The focus on aesthetics wasn’t resonating with him in his work as a personal trainer and coach, which is what lead him to focusing on people with serious health (mental and physical) issues, which is why he founded Platinum Training Institute as a way to train others on how to train those most in need of physical fitness for the tough journeys they’re on.
  • Lee Havern shut off all of his social media to get even further away from the aesthetic focus on these platforms, and because of how they can pull your attention from what’s right in front of you, so of course he had to close all of his accounts given what he feels is most important in life.
  • Slow it down a bit. Switch everything off, take a deep breath, and close your eyes. That’s meditation at its essence, so allow yourself to do it by turning off the distractions.
  • Lee doesn’t even see a need for the health and fitness industry. If we all prioritized getting out and being in the world, there wouldn’t be a need for it.
  • The major issues people are dealing with that Platinum Training focuses on are all related to mental health. If someone has Cancer, cardiac issues, etc, of course they have mental health issues as a result. It all relates back to helping people with their mind and how they feel about themselves. So that’s what he focuses on in his practice.
  • When we go into a job to make money, that’s the wrong job.
  • Don’t let some outside statement define you or what you do. Learn yourself, do the testing on yourself and see what works for you.
  • Lee and I discussed weighing yourself, and the pros and cons of it. What he has learned is that if he feels overweight, there’s something going on mentally that the weight (or the feeling of being overweight) is a signal of. It’s a signal that, in some way, he’s not looking after himself the way he should.
  • Lee leaves us with three central things to focus on: health, happiness and simplicity.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day

021: Redesigning Wellness by Knowing Yourself with Jen Arnold

By on September 4, 2018


Download this episode

The Do a Day Podcast

Jen ArnoldJen Arnold is host of the Redesigning Wellness podcast where she interviews experts on the topic of organizational health. Jen’s on a mission to change the common approach to employee health and wellness. To support this mission, she facilitates employee training that addresses leadership, resilience and mindfulness.

For the 16 years prior to starting her own business, Jen led organizational health and wellness efforts and advised employers how to start them. Most recently, she worked at Blue Cross Blue Shield of NC for over 8 years leading a team of health promotion professionals.

Jen Arnold is a TEDx speaker who uses stories, activities and humor to not only make a point but to keep audiences engaged and listening. She lives in Raleigh, NC with her husband, two children and dog.

Key Points from the Episode with Jen Arnold

  • Jen Arnold’s story in childhood following her parents’ divorce when she was six, and she grew up with a mother who battled binge eating habits. Sometimes that meant eating a lot of healthy things, having a lot of unhealthy things around, or sometimes having no food around because it was all eaten or because the means weren’t there for there to be enough food. This has lead to a sense of food scarcity, so even today she looks to savor and save her food because of the wiring that tells her that it could all be gone in the next moment.
  • She described her mother’s situation as “eating her pain,” which is a phrase that really struck home for me as someone who has battled with emotional eating in my past.
  • Jen grew up extremely aware of her body and what she ate, and found herself embarrassed by her weight and body composition since she had a more muscular build than other girls, so she naturally weighed more and was bigger, even though she wasn’t overweight for her structure. She shared a particular story from her childhood, growing up own the deep, hot South where she would wear jeans every day to hide her calves, which were bigger and more muscular than other girls’ because she didn’t want people to notice them.
  • Sometimes, we are the meanest to the people we are closest to, and we may not put the work and introspection in to have empathy and compassion for those closest to us. That includes not just our immediate family, but even ourselves. Instead of judging the person, recognize the ‘stuff’ behind the actions or behavior. That helps you realize that there is a reason for the behavior, it’s not often in the person’s conscious control or awareness, and it comes from hurt rather than intentional dysfunction.
  • Jen went through high school as a the achiever, good student, type A. And at 18, she was very directed, but under that outside facade, she didn’t really know what she really wanted in her life.
  • After a car accident at 19, Jen Arnold decided she needed a shift, so she changed colleges and her educational focus to nutrition and took a lot of psychology courses to add the understanding of people’s mindset. That’s how she started down the wellness path, landing a role in a corporate wellness position at a hospital to help employees deal with their weight.
  • While she tried to help as much as she could in her early roles, she found herself with ineffective tools from the standard toolkit around calorie restriction, increased movement and short-term goals around things like corporate weight loss challenges.
  • She started her show, Redesigning Wellness, and started to find out more about mindfulness and its connection to effectively eating better through a guest she interviewed. While that was empowering to discover, it also showed her plainly that she was doing it wrong so far, which was a hard thing to deal with, bringing guilt and a sense of perhaps failing people.
  • She dove further into mindful eating education herself, and started to use that theme in her discussions with corporate clients and individuals she was trying to help.
  • The focus needs to shift from being about the weight and being about the person. It’s less about the surface level things, and more about the underlying reasons and values.
  • We focus on weight so often, and weight isn’t the question. We judge people who lost weight as doing something positive and looking good, but miss why they lost weight and whether they should. Jen shared the story from when she was in a pattern of getting sick over and over and a nurse at the doctor’s office was all excited and celebrating that she had lost weight without realizing it was because she was unwell.
  • We talked about exercise as a penance for what you eat. It’s a punishment, or a must-do. It’s to undo the choices you made around what you ate or will eat. That just reinforces the emotional connection to food, and strengthens the wrong kinds of thoughts around food. Jen talked about joyful movement instead. Let it feel good to move your body in and of itself, without connecting it to undoing some other ‘bad’ in your life.
  • Mindfulness, in essence, is the power of the pause. Stopping and checking in with yourself to break the cycle of mindless actions.

Links

Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast

   

Keep Growing with Do a Day